
Today’s message from God Calling – A.J. Russell, reminds us that everything in our living should be inspired by love. 1Corinthians 13 is referenced by the message.
The message bids us to turn out all that is unloving from our hearts and our lives, in order that we may bear much fruit. That’s a tough assignment! How, when I live where I live, am I supposed to find the time to do that?! I’ll be at that all day long, every day. “Yes,” said the Lord; “you sure will. And, that’s the point, Dear.” I thought of Jesus’ words to the disciples: “In the world, you’ll have tribulation. But, be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world.” Then that one in Romans 12:21 – Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Turning out all that is unloving requires that we raise a standard, and set boundaries. Not only set them, but enforce them. “There’s a certain way we talk to one another here. Certain things are unacceptable here, to me, in this family, etc. I’m sorry, I cannot allow you to…” I’m sure you get the picture. Putting this into practice daily requires honest communication; even, and especially with yourself. “No, I will not indulge in this, or that, because I love myself more than that. I used to be really bad about indulging myself with anxiety and bitterness. I could drive myself crazy trying to out guess somebody, outmaneuver them. I did rob myself of a whole lot of joy because I indulged in bitterness. That’s a steep hill, and it’s all downhill into a pit of apathy and depression.
When we set standards and boundaries, we are creating a loving atmosphere for ourselves and loved ones to live and function well in. We also have an obligation to others, to make them aware of our standards and boundaries. That’s honest communication. It is the loving thing to do. It also serves as an inspiration and aide to others who may be struggling with their own issues.
“If I speak with the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I’m a ringing gong, a clanging cymbal.” Words are not enough. Sometimes we have to get in there and show somebody the way by walking it with them. I found that checking that list (love God, love yourself, love your neighbor as yourself) whenever there’s an issue to deal with, really helps in terms of the standard I’m living according to, and the boundaries I need to put in place and enforce. It is a daily thing, choosing love, speaking truth in love, living truthfully even in unloving circumstances or in the face of unloving people. Sometimes, you just have to accept the truth about the world you live in, and walk that line anyway. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to pray for them. God knows so much better than we do what they need, and just when they’re ready for it. Did you know that walking away is also a loving thing to do-for God, for yourself, and for the other person(s)? It leaves room for God to do His thing. It relieves you of responsibility-you’ve done what you could do. It leaves that person, or those persons, alone with themselves…and the truth about themselves and their situation. That just might make them seek the help they need.
Love you from Cafe du Mondieu
Copyright by Marina Morrison (aka) Eden Stillwater, November 20, 2019, 3:34 p.m.